In this short letter I’ll reveal three powerful truths about divorce that have the potential to completely change your outcome…
As a child psychiatrist, I’ve been helping people just like you to navigate the treacherous waters of divorce while still obtaining the best possible outcome:
You and I both know the wrong actions taken during this stressful time will have long-lasting effects on everyone involved.
And sadly, it’s the children that usually have more lasting hurts and trauma. And they didn’t ask for any of this!
But there is a way to get through divorce intelligently and minimize the negative impact on yourself and your kids.
But I’m getting ahead of myself.
First, let’s look at truth #1.
Divorce is a huge loss
It truly is a loss. The loss of many things…forever.
But here’s the rub:
When someone dies, you receive support from both sides of the family and your social circle.
But when faced with divorce, many people that were once your friends and family are now against you.
Others are awkward and don’t know what to say or do so they avoid you.
And in many cases, you’re left with friends and family as emotionally charged as you. This clouds their judgment when dispensing advice or trying to help you through it.
It’s a very tough time.
You look at your finances and you’re terrified. You look in the mirror and maybe you’re overweight and think, “what am I going to do?”
You worry how it’s going to affect your children.
You wonder whom you can turn to for real answers to difficult questions. You wonder if it’s ever going to get better.
Which brings me to truth #2.
Divorce is a time-limited experience.
You have before divorce.
You have after divorce.
And you have the pivotal time in the middle. When decisions are made and actions are taken, that will set the course for the future.
But here’s the difficulty with this period in the middle - You are not yourself - nor is your Ex.
Divorce is an unstable situation. It’s a horrible time because at the very moment when you and your Ex need to step up and be amazing parents in the face of all the stress and change the kids have to go through.
…You are at your worst.
And to throw gas on an already burning fire, the very nature of the court system is predatory. All it takes is one attorney or one side or the other to spin the entire thing out of control.
Here’s an example of what I mean:
An attorney or an angry Ex can decide you’re not fit for custody and the next thing you know you’re forced to defend yourself…and drag up anything bad you can think of about your Ex to build your case…
Meanwhile, thousands of dollars get spent…and two people that are upset with each other - and ultimately can’t stand each other - are somehow trying to raise kids together.
And that’s just one scenario - of the hundreds that could play out and send the whole thing spiraling out of control – while your children try to cope with the turmoil going on all around them.
Which brings me to the third truth:
There’s a better way…
A more sure way…
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Right now you have a choice to make.
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I wish you the best on your journey.
Here’s to divorcing intelligently!
Dr. Mark Banschick M.D.
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The initial problems of divorce and how to handle them. How to tell your children about the upcoming divorce? Learn how to protect the innocence of your children.
Research tells us much about the impact of divorce on children. How does child development factor into divorce? How do you talk to your kids?
Children have rights in a divorce. This module along with the downloadable Child’s Bill of Rights is an emotional lifejacket for your children. This document alone can change the entire course of how your children come through your divorce – emotionally healthy or forever scarred. Plus, it’s a handy tool to give your Ex to read and help them instantly realize what’s important when it comes to the kids no matter how you feel about each other.
Proven ways to raise healthier kids that thrive in divorce. Learn 10 powerful parenting techniques that will help your kids feel hopeful and connected with you.
Not every ex-spouse is ready. Learn how to take control and not be triggered. Are you in a power struggle? How do you handle it?
Dealing with a provocative and out of control moment. In module 6 we break down "The Big Fight" through actor simulation and learn how to handle difficult encounters.
Co-parenting can be difficult. It takes work. Learn communication techniques such as mirroring, clarification and striking when the iron is cold to deal with your Ex.
Sometimes a difficult Ex can become truly malignant. How do you deal effectively with an impossible ex-spouse?
Understanding the legal terms and what's involved. Know your basic legal terms, because knowledge is power.
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About Dr. Banschick ...
Mark Banschick, M.D. is a psychiatrist, columnist and an advocate for healthy living. He trained at Georgetown University Hospital and New York Hospital/Cornell Weil Medical Center. Dr. B has appeared on CBS’s The Early Show, and contributes regularly to Psychology Today and The Huffington Post.
In recent years, Dr. Banschick has identified a need for a saner way to get divorced, and so The Intelligent Divorce Project was born. The project features two books, The Intelligent Divorce: Taking Care of Your Children and The Intelligent Divorce: Taking Care of Yourself, a radio show and an online parenting course.